Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Zuppa Toscana

This is a variation of potato soup. Easy to make and VERY healthy.

6 medium to large potatoes (peeled and diced - or however you like them)
2 bunches of green onion (chopped - you can substitute yellow onions)
2 pounds of sweet Italian sausage (if you want spicy- 1 hot, 1 sweet)
8 quarts of chicken stock or bouillion
1 pound of Kale, trimmed
2 cloves of garlic
salt and pepper
Oregano, Basil and Taragon if you have it or 'Italian Seasoning'
Boil for 45 minutes to an hour
Great with garlic bread and salad and copious amounts of vino!

If You Don't Love Yourself How The Hell Are You Going to Love Someone Else?

Monday, July 25, 2011

Another Houston Landmark In The Gay Community - Gone But Never Forgotten.

I will never forget Mary's (Houston, Texas). It was legendary. Mary's was the first gay bar I ever dared to enter! This is the mural on the side of the soon to be demolished building.

by Richard Connelly:
Mary's, the bar that many people think of as the gay bar in Houston history, is no more, a victim of unpaid rent.

But there's a scramble going on to try to keep as much of the place as possible, as a way to preserve a cornerstone of Houston's gay past.
A Facebook page has been set up to encourage ways to get artifacts from the 40-year-old place."The old sign with Ronald Reagan smoking that hung in the bathroom?" writes one commenter. "The old 'Mary's' sign that hung outside the building on the patio? What about any of the artifacts stored in the back building? Or some of the items from the back patio, like the motorcycle and statue?"
Tim Brookover, an activist in the gay community, is urging the GLBT Community Center board to get active in saving whatever can be saved.
"Mary's contains a number of objects and artifacts that are significant to gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender heritage," he says. "Our ad hoc Mary's heritage group, spearheaded by the GLBT Community Center, is seeking to get access to Mary's and, we hope, permission to remove at least some of the items. At the very least, we hope to document what is left with photography."

If those walls could speak....

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Jade (Nephrite) Water Buffalos

I picked up a pair of carved Jade waterbuffalo this weekend. They are carved from the same piece of stone. They measure 3 7/8 inch X 7 5/8 inch. They are very detailed and even show direction of hair growth, a rope through the nose and over the shoulder, ridges of the spine above the tail, skin wrinkles, prominent eyes and wrinkles of the eyelids and they rest on an attached base with many drilled holes. This is Nephrite Jade which is old enough to have oxidized to brown.

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Thursday, July 21, 2011

Dark Alice, Bent Alice: Heather's Caning and Humiliation

Dark Alice, Bent Alice: Heather's Caning and Humiliation: "I've started a new story about Sister Mary and the way she punishes wayward girls - Heather's Caning and Humiliation . The work is hot, and ..."

Dark Alice, Bent Alice: The Perfect Ass

Dark Alice, Bent Alice: The Perfect Ass: "I love a woman with a beautiful butt - two perfect cheeks, round and firm, yet yielding to the touch. Rubbing my hand across her buttocks..."

Dark Alice, Bent Alice: A woman's ass is perfect

Dark Alice, Bent Alice: A woman's ass is perfect: "I love a woman with a deliciously round bottom that begs to be spanked. The smooth, round delicious feel of the buttocks, cool in my hands ..."

Monday, July 18, 2011

Torn Between Man and Woman

Lesbian Erotica
Torn between man and woman.
Question:I am eighteen years old and bisexual. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I love him more than anything, but I often find myself wanting so badly to be with a girl. I tried having a three-way with our friend a while back, but I didn't enjoy it. Niether of us would want an open relationship, either. I hate missing out on this side of myself. Any advice on how to create a balance between my love for a man and my want for a woman?
Answer:Dear Melissa,

I could use a little more information. Read what I have to say, and if I have not helped you- please write again. I will ask you some specific questions at the end of my answer, and throughout my answer.

BTW- threesomes rarely work out. Usually someone involved is angry, hurt, insecure and jealous or disappointed, and although there may be no immediate negative consequences- out of the many, MANY couples that I know- who have engaged in group sex, only one or two of these couples are still together. Frequently the experience puts some chinks in the foundation of trust that a successful relationship requires. So- be careful about that kind of exploration if you are hoping for a lengthy and committed relationship. TO ANYONE. Did your boyfriend like the threesome? Who did NOT like it? Did it leave you with this bothersome feeling that you wanted to do it again, only this time without the boyfriend?

Sometimes people use threesomes to safely go where they dare not go alone. And then- when they get a little sample of what things might be like having sex with another woman (in this case) an obsession develops that nags them until they have to make it happen for real. One on one. At that point- they either like or they do NOT- and all is well- or not.

The answers about one's sexual orientation are rarely easy to find, and even less seldom- permanent. You will make a million changes between now and the day you die. THAT, I PROMISE!

The only advice that I can give you is to be very honest with yourself and with your boyfriend (within reason - you do not want to cause him to feel threatened and use your personal information to hurt you). Where you end up sexually depends on YOU. Would you be devastated to realize that you are gay?

It really seems to me that you are hoping to enjoy a relationship with your boyfriend, and have some sex with women. That will not be a good thing. A lot of people will be hurt.

You could shove your feelings and refuse to act upon them and swear that you will be hetero no matter not. Sometimes that works for people.

Also, it might help you to get more acquainted with what the life of a lesbian is actually like. Maybe that would turn you off of lesbianism. Making love with a woman can be mind blowing and something that making love with a man simply can't compete with. But- embracing the lesbian lifestyle may not be something that appeals to you. It is not easy to be hated by and ridiculed by so many people and not let it get to you. It is not easy seeing your friends reassess you and in many cases turn away from you. Hiding one's life is stressful and difficult and painful.

You could just hope it's a phase. It might be. But, to be honest with you- it would not surprise me if by the time you are 30 or so that you decide that you are a lesbian. I say this because you trying to neatly integrate it into your realm. You want balance between the two- not a decision. If you do not like what I just said- perhaps that will add more fuel to prove me wrong. lol

The important thing is- do not torture yourself and try not to become obsessed. If you do not want to be a lesbian- do not explore lesbian sex and continue to raise these desires within yourself. THAT is self torture. That's like putting a person struggling with addiction in the room with their chemical of choice.

You can look for a clergyperson, a counselor or therapist if it is within your means to do so. A person that you can go to for discussion and understanding might be very helpful.

And, of course, I am always here and happy to help you.

When I was in the age range that you are now in, I wanted so badly to be normal and not be gay. I tried so hard! But, I was so attracted to women it just hurt. I married at 18 to a Texas music legend. I did feel sexual attraction for some men, and I had great sex with some men.

However- I could not deal with the lack of intimacy, and the constant manipulation that one must deal with when in a relationship with a man. I hated being objectified, disrespected, having my feelings minimized, never being taken seriously, and having to work twice as hard as a man to make the same amount of MONEY. I hated having birth control and sexual health be MY responsibility financially and otherwise. I hated the fact that the ultimate responsibility of child rearing and the time and expense involved in accomplishing successfully guiding and caring for a child would fall upon me. I have issues about being under the control of men. I do not trust them and I refuse to participate in their world any more than I have to. And I finally decided that I could never be happy in a committed relationship to a man.

If any of that sounds like you- it might be time for professional counseling.

Do you think that if you do not taste sex with a woman that you will really miss out? Why?

Sex is only a important as you make it. If you REALLY want to be with your boyfriend forever- it is possible that you and he will be able to come to an honest way to deal with this. Role playing and fantasy might be the thing.

Please write again if you need to~
Kind regards,

My Secret Obsession Lesbian Erotica

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Cool Your Hot Pussy . . .

In September, 2008, Hurricane Ike ripped through the Gulf Coast area of the United States, including Texas, and visited Haiti and other outlying islands as well leveling destruction on already distressed areas of the United States, such as Louisiana, Mississipi and Florida, who were still trying to recover from Katrina.

As people were struggling for their very lives- sometimes it became necessary to cut ties with friends. Unfortunately for many- sometimes their pets were left behind.

I have two cats who chose to come and live with me during Ike. I already have an 8 year old frog that I have had since he was a tadpole, and another cat. We live quite happily.

These cats- the ones that came during the hurricane are so traumatized that they refuse to live in the house.

One lives at the backdoor, and one lives at the front door.

Between June and September- Texas is hotter than Hades on a BAD day. So- what do you do to protect these pussies?

I started freezing bottles of water. I taught them by 'petting' them with the frozen bottles on a particularly hot day, rubbing against their hair growth and getting close to the skin. After I showed them- now I just stand the bottles up on the porch and they rub against them until they are cool.

I fill their bowls with ice water, too.

In the winter, I put heating pads on the porch for them to sleep on.

Just FYI for pussy lovers!

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Wednesday, July 13, 2011


Submitting your eBook for a Global eBook Award is a publicity investment.
  • Winners and finalists will be listed on the official AwardsForEbook.com site.
  • Winners and finalists will receive Global eBook Award certificates attesting to their honor.
  • Winners will be announced to the media in news releases.
  • Award ceremony.
  • Videos for Amazon pages and YouTube.
  • Close-ups of the cover and then the author or publisher receiving the award (if present) against a backdrop with the logo.
  • And much more…

Thursday, July 7, 2011

The First Part of This Unusual Story . . .

Shifting Sands
Lives in an age of sexual transitions.
By Clara.

This is an erotic and true tale of two individuals, Ingrid and Jaron, who were born into a crumbling age where sexual norms and relationships were fixed like islands of granite. In that fading age the older generation grew up with heterosexual expectations and accompanying prejudices, something the next generation saw slipping away. What would it be like growing up in such a time of sexual transition?

Before their teens, both Ingrid and Jaron lived in heterosexual cocoons but by then the world around them had changed, it had become one where the simplistic granite islands had long been replaced by the shifting emotional and sexual sands of ever changing and challenging erotic, relationship sandbars.

Their childhood sexual steadfastness would waver at the onset of puberty with every shift of the erotic sandbars they stood on. Their lives shifted from staunch old-age, self perceptions, to sampling the brave new delicacies, crossing boundaries into same gender experiences that crossed paths with their sexually biased foundations. If these shifts were not enough to take their preconceived ideas away, they faced added side effects of this shifting age . . . effects often maddening, painful, and frightening, but in the end these led to deliciously rewarding outcomes which came with the inevitable, yet thrilling tensions of gender role transitions. As often brutal male bulwarks of yesteryear crumble, female sensuality rose and became the power of the new way forward.

Shifting Sands tells the true story of these two people, who like most, begin their adult lives with sexual awakening in their teens before emotions mature. The emotions often ran parallel with their sexual development but were not always involved with their sexuality. At times these elements took on a life of their own, sometimes the feelings and sexuality would meet with devastating consequences. Whereas the sexual behavior often began flippant and just a matter of fun for both Jaron and Ingrid, it later became hostage to feelings which had deep seated roots. The paths they were forced to follow in life were filled with turmoil and learning curves developing a longing for love in a world where love was not what they expected it to be.

Their stories demonstrate that the sexual revolution of the 1960s, which seemed to have lost its wild momentum decades later, had not died at all, instead it had stabilised itself to become a sexual evolution in the 21st century, where old ways warp to mix with new delights and the true heirs of this age-old gender struggle, would finally win. Those new heirs being the ones oppressed in the old age.

Chapter 1
Granite Islands

There are many players in this story but the main focus is on Ingrid and Jaron.
In the old world order of the so-called weaker female sex, it was 'ladies first'. Times have moved on and with the advent of weaker men, to please them, we will just this once say, 'men first.'
So we will begin to tell a bit about Jaron before we touch on Ingrid.
Who then is Jaron?
Most men feel very proud of their 'family jewels', and the thought of a woman damaging these makes many angry, yet some men develop a strange relationship with their privates which over time goes from pride to loathing, as was the case for Jaron.
Early on in his life he discovered his 'jewels' and the pleasure these gave, he thought they were the greatest things going and thought they were good enough to delight others. Yet he never imagined that some women, some wonderful, and some less wonderful would finally bring him to want, even beg, to have these 'jewels' modified by them, yes to their every whim.
Generally, when a boy grows up, he grows up thinking that girls will want him, and why not? He thinks that way because he will be a man, and because of this he has something to offer all women by simply being a man and by virtue of having 'jewels' commonly called 'balls and dick'. Thus, by believing this, he also believes that he will find a wife who will serve him, love him and his sexuality, and that he will make the decisions for them, and that she will be happy to go along with these projected visions.
Jaron was boy, who on the road to becoming a man and believing all these things, would slowly be brought down to the real world- one where women are not so easy and not so meek. He would learn along a difficult path that some men ultimately wish to be walked on, walked over, abused and their very manhood mocked and and even shattered . . . and that he'd be one of them.
Little did this once proud, and self loving male realize, that he would become a self-hater and a woman worshiper.
Little did he know that it would be by the sheer strength of self-determined women that he would undergo a complete shift in his self pride, and his self love of his manhood.
What's more, he would have a gradual shift of his whole male instinct, and all he perceived would make a dramatic shift with it.
It would take a very long time for him to learn that the weaker sex was not weak. It was tender, it was soft, it was alluring, it was beautiful, but under all that magnetic power of women lurked a persistence, a sense of self knowing that women are simply the better strategists between the sexes. When this is awakened in them, they become more than merely a sex objectified woman to drool over, not just being a female for male whims, they become something to be reckoned with. When this happens, a woman is much stronger than a man, a sea of change takes place deep within her and this brings about, as a natural consequence, a complete change in men.
It was once said: “Wooden ships-Iron men . . . Iron ships-Wooden men.”
This speaks of a strength-shift from wooden-ship sailors to steel-ship sailors and this can also be said of men in a man's world to men in a woman’s world. Men in the old sexual world order were the boss but that order was on the way out when Jaron and Ingrid were growing up. When a woman is weak, the male is strong and dominant . . . and walks over her but when the woman awakens, she becomes strong and the man becomes weak and even submissive . . . yes, even begging for 'it'. Begging to be humiliated and mocked, especially his 'jewels'. That's when the male desperately wants women to even hurt his jewels, possibly as a form of primordial punishment, when he reaches that level in his sexuality.
Could this ever happen to Jaron? Surely not . . . Yet the women in his life who he tried to rule and love gave him more than he bargained for and his granite island would crumble to shifting sands.

So what then of Ingrid?
Hers is a story of a girl-to-woman event that slowly brought her to the real world where men were not strong, wise, heroes at all. Her view of the world was very limited at first and one that would be challenged very early on in her teens. Before she even got to know anything at all about men, she would begin to learn that women were stronger and more interesting than she was led to believe within the traditional background she was brought up with.
It was said in the past that when most girls grow up, they imagined being swept away by some handsome man, and that girls had romantic ideas of being under a benevolent dictator husband. Well, at least for one girl, Ingrid, she was certainly brought up to be meek and mild, never knowing much about men but believing that stereotypical illusion.
The only man she knew as a girl was her strict father who would force her to listen to his 'laying down the law' and if she refused to listen, she would be given a hiding. This shaped her impression of men but did not help to dampen her illusion of the male hero stereotype in her mind and dreams. Any other form of relationship and sexual experience was far from her mind and sense of truth. Anything other than the heterosexual norm did not exist in her mind. Yet not only would she know all about men and their short comings, she would also end up knowing some things about women and their sexuality.
In time she would find herself longing for the delights that only a woman knows how to give, delights men can not give simply because of a very physically limiting factor, they are men.
She would learn that a woman was able to be and do more than she thought was possible. As for the men in her life, some would be disastrous and one she would bring into submission, getting him to love it and even begging her to do whatever she wants to do to him, no matter how extreme.
She would never have dreamed that she'd love women and rule a man whose jewels she longed to cut away, his very pride and joy, even telling him it's for the best . . .and that he would not only agree, but consent! Her fixed like granite ideas were challenged time and again.
It is a mixed bag of experiences that shape human relationships, it is not always so 'cut and dry'.
The experiences are often painful and thrilling, pleasurable and sometimes empty. For Ingrid and Jaron these experiences began in early teens.
Ingrid never had reason to expect that a girl friend at school would play a major roll in her emotional and sexual development. She could never have known that someday, years later- she would be like a goddess to someone.
Little could Jaron have known that his hopes of his first, truly, sexual experience would not be met with a girl as he had hoped. Little could he have known that his dreams of being the 'big-man' in the household would end up with him becoming an 'incidental-thing' about the place, to be used only when needed.

Mystery Writers / Shifting Sands

I have been an indie writer and blogger for about 10 years, now. Over the years I have made alliances, friendships, and connections with a lot of people.

I got very serious about writing in 2004. That was the year that My Secret Obsession made her debut on the internet, and over the last seven years, she has grown to astounding proportions and enjoys a remarkable amount of traffic. I think the biggest month ever was this February 2011, when we got 1,669,000 hits.

Occasionally, I will have a writer to get in contact with me with a very good piece of work that they are afraid to publish. The work is usually of extreme sexual subject matter.

I collaborate with some writers, as some of you may know. But- this is different.

For instance- I am working right now with . . . someone. I do not know for certain if this artist / writer is actually a woman, but whoever it is claims to be a woman. I have received at least 100 photographs that prove this artist to be quite accomplished, and the work is unlike anything that I have ever seen before. It is startling, kinky, and wrong . . . but soooo exciting.

And the manuscript that I have been sent to edit is VERY good! It explores dick abuse and the psychology behind it in a very matter of fact way, and then goes on to a surprising end.

The person that wrote this story is obviously very intelligent, talented and promises to send another book soon.

I keep trying to tell this person that I need to be able to send royalties, and that marketing must be done.

It is being left up to me.

This is not the first time this has happened to me. The author of Secretly Bound, by the Mysterious Jade, also sought my help in editing and mentorship. Now we love each other dearly, and she has taken ownership of her book and is in a relationship with the rock star, Jamie Nova, of WitchBurn. She has made many impressive contacts, and in return has helped ME.

The novel that I am currently working on should be out by the end of August. The pen name for the author is simply, Clara. She (or he) claims to live in Australia, but there is a German influence over the humor and terminology used in this story. The name of the novel is, Shifting Sands.

I am almost finished editing and will be submitting this 46,500 word novel to SmashWords, and maybe to Lulu.com if they agree to my terms. They usually do.

So this is what I have been doing instead of Tweeting. I hope you enjoy this mysterious novel.

I would also love to hear speculations of it's origins.

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Sunday, July 3, 2011

Kat, the Texas Tornado - new eBook on Smashwords.com!

Kat the Texas Tornado , by Blue Sleighty. Now available at Smashwords in Kindle, Sony and iBook formats and more.

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New Advice Question

Questioner: XXXXXXXX

Subject: Conflicted

Date Asked: 2011-07-03 11:01:54

Date Answered: today


I'm 20, bidexual female, and in a relationship with a male.
A few weeks ago, although I love my bf, I realized that I am in fact gay. It hurts to stay with him because i feel and emptyness in me that longs for the intamacy of a woman. I feel guilty for not loving him enough to want to stay with him after all we have been through, but I can't lie to myself any more. as a pastor's daughter, I tried to convince muself that I could love both genders but my heart and mind cannot be satifyed by male love. I often feel unnatural with a man and lately, with a close friend, our relationship(which turned into a full fledged lesbian relationship) feels natural and complete.
What should I do? My bf is convinced that it is a phase and i'm still conflicted and unsure of myself in whether i am gay or bi. He begs me to stay with him but I just dont know what to do. Please help me




It sounds like you are having a pretty tough time. I sympathize with you.
First- do not beat yourself up for not 'loving your b/f enough to stay with him'. It would be far worse for both of you were you to stay with your b/f when you clearly are not in love with him. If you WERE actually in love with him- no one would be able to lure you away from him- be it man or woman.
Now might be a good point for you to spend some time away from him in order to sort things out. It is difficult to be true to yourself when you have people manipulating you for their own purposes.
Coming out to yourself is often as difficult as it is to come out to others. You have a lifetime to spend with yourself- and your feelings are the most important of all right now. You must be completely honest with yourself and decide what truly makes you happy.
Can you honestly say that it would be O.K. with you if you were never with a man intimately or sexually ever again? Can you imagine dating only women for the rest of your life, and even possibly making a lifetime commitment to a woman? If you were to break up with the woman you are currently seeing- do you think your next pursuit would be a woman?
Most people change somewhat with years and experience to varying degrees, and it is possible that you are going through a phase, but from the way you describe your feelings I would feel inclined to believe that you are a lesbian. The important thing is for you to decide what makes you happy at this point in your life.
You may decide that you do not want to commit either way at this point. If you are not sure about your feelings for either of them- then as long as you are not living with either of them, and are not leading anyone on, and are not giving anyone false hope- then that's O.K., too. You should do what you need to do to be happy.
If you decide to break up with your b/f be careful and gentle. It is not necessary for him to know all of your feelings, and it is not necessary for him to know all of your business. You can leave out all of the details because if you are not committed to him it is none of his business and the facts may hurt him and he in return may decide to hurt YOU. Do not tell him anything that would incite him to hurt you or ruin your life and do not give him or anyone else facts that they can use against you.
I am telling you this because over the years I have had people that I thought were my friends and loved ones use my sexual orientation against me in ways that have affected my life and employment in profound ways.
I hope that I have answered your question to your satisfaction, however, please write again if I missed something.

Kind regards,

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