Monday, May 30, 2011
Sunday, May 29, 2011
What will they think of next?
What will they think of next? See how they are going to get you next! Big Brother is WATCHING YOU!
Saturday, May 28, 2011
New Question
Hi,
I have developed feelings for my same-sex friend and have started to explore the possibility of being lesbian. I am just wondering, I understand the non-sexual side of a lesbian relationship and I feel like I would be satisfied spending my life with another woman even if the relationship remained somewhat unsexual. However, I also feel that when you are in love with someone there is going to be a sexual side to the relationship, so what kind of sex life do lesbians have? I have seen some things on the internet and it seems to be a little played up for the enjoyment of others and there is obviously no connection between the two women. I must admit that I have sort of been influenced by the stereotypes that lesbian and gay relationships have somewhat flamboyant sex.
Questioner,
If it turns out that you are a lesbian, and you love the person that you are with AND your relationship includes sex- you can expect extraordinary sex. When you love and trust someone and you have sex with them- sex is usually very good.
Really and truly we are our own enemies when it comes to good or bad sex. Sex is a very personal and sensitive subject which is RIFE with psychological and physiological toxins that can make enjoyment of sex very difficult. Some of us can't enjoy it at all and some of us have a wet blanket which smothers half of our enjoyment potential called insecurity.
You are correct. Pretty much all lesbian porn videos and 90% of lesbian movies do not portray lesbian sex in a natural or accurate light. If you would like to see a movie that is a good portrayal of the passion of lesbian sex- please watch "Desert Hearts", "Loving Annabelle" or any episode of "The L Word". Sex is what we make of it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Also- just because you have sex with a woman- it doesn't make you a lesbian. You seem to know that by what you wrote, but just reinforcing that thought.
Write back if you need more! I wish you great happiness!
Blue Sleighty
I have developed feelings for my same-sex friend and have started to explore the possibility of being lesbian. I am just wondering, I understand the non-sexual side of a lesbian relationship and I feel like I would be satisfied spending my life with another woman even if the relationship remained somewhat unsexual. However, I also feel that when you are in love with someone there is going to be a sexual side to the relationship, so what kind of sex life do lesbians have? I have seen some things on the internet and it seems to be a little played up for the enjoyment of others and there is obviously no connection between the two women. I must admit that I have sort of been influenced by the stereotypes that lesbian and gay relationships have somewhat flamboyant sex.
Questioner,
If it turns out that you are a lesbian, and you love the person that you are with AND your relationship includes sex- you can expect extraordinary sex. When you love and trust someone and you have sex with them- sex is usually very good.
Really and truly we are our own enemies when it comes to good or bad sex. Sex is a very personal and sensitive subject which is RIFE with psychological and physiological toxins that can make enjoyment of sex very difficult. Some of us can't enjoy it at all and some of us have a wet blanket which smothers half of our enjoyment potential called insecurity.
You are correct. Pretty much all lesbian porn videos and 90% of lesbian movies do not portray lesbian sex in a natural or accurate light. If you would like to see a movie that is a good portrayal of the passion of lesbian sex- please watch "Desert Hearts", "Loving Annabelle" or any episode of "The L Word". Sex is what we make of it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Also- just because you have sex with a woman- it doesn't make you a lesbian. You seem to know that by what you wrote, but just reinforcing that thought.
Write back if you need more! I wish you great happiness!
Blue Sleighty
Friday, May 27, 2011
A Word of Caution About LATEX SEX TOYS
The FDA (Food and Drug Administration) does not regulate manufacturing of sex toys or the materials used to do so.
Many sex toys and most condoms are made of Latex or PVC and often also contain phthalates which is added to keep latex soft and pliable. Contact with latex causes sensitivity over time due to a cumulative affect with each use. Often people are initially allergic to latex and suffer severe symptoms when in contact with it.
The symptoms of latex allergy may be relatively mild, but can include burning or stinging and itching, urinary tract and/or bladder infection, high fever, liver and/or kidney damage and death. Even though you may not be allergic to latex at first- it will build up in your body and with continued exposure most people will eventually have a reaction to it.
The additive phthalate is also toxic, as is PVC (polyvinyl chloride). Both are known carcinogens. But phthalates are EXTREMELY DANGEROUS causing changes in the endocrine system, changes in hormone levels, birth defects, breast cancer and more. Please read THIS ARTICLE for more about phthalates.
The good news is- silicone and rubber are safe. So as long as you purchase 100% silicone or 100% rubber sex toys you can play safely.
However- a manufacturer can label a sex toy as made of silicone or rubber as long as silicone or rubber is the MAIN ingredient, and many times even though a sex toy may say it is silicone, it may not be 100% silicone and can contain latex , phthalates or pvc. When you purchase a sex toy it is very important to make certain that it is made of 100% silicone or rubber.
Many sex toys and most condoms are made of Latex or PVC and often also contain phthalates which is added to keep latex soft and pliable. Contact with latex causes sensitivity over time due to a cumulative affect with each use. Often people are initially allergic to latex and suffer severe symptoms when in contact with it.
The symptoms of latex allergy may be relatively mild, but can include burning or stinging and itching, urinary tract and/or bladder infection, high fever, liver and/or kidney damage and death. Even though you may not be allergic to latex at first- it will build up in your body and with continued exposure most people will eventually have a reaction to it.
The additive phthalate is also toxic, as is PVC (polyvinyl chloride). Both are known carcinogens. But phthalates are EXTREMELY DANGEROUS causing changes in the endocrine system, changes in hormone levels, birth defects, breast cancer and more. Please read THIS ARTICLE for more about phthalates.
The good news is- silicone and rubber are safe. So as long as you purchase 100% silicone or 100% rubber sex toys you can play safely.
However- a manufacturer can label a sex toy as made of silicone or rubber as long as silicone or rubber is the MAIN ingredient, and many times even though a sex toy may say it is silicone, it may not be 100% silicone and can contain latex , phthalates or pvc. When you purchase a sex toy it is very important to make certain that it is made of 100% silicone or rubber.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
The Dawn
She lay with me by a river
Water rushing over rock
Breezes whispering with the leaves
On boughs twisting with the power
She danced with me in the ocean
Waves kissing tender feet
In a private morning hour
Before the sun joined us
And set our world aglow
And though I swore I did not want her
I know that now I will never let her go
Water rushing over rock
Breezes whispering with the leaves
On boughs twisting with the power
She danced with me in the ocean
Waves kissing tender feet
In a private morning hour
Before the sun joined us
And set our world aglow
And though I swore I did not want her
I know that now I will never let her go
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Fisting
My girlfriend engaged in fisting with an inexperienced partner 20 years ago, and was physically traumatized. She was enormously embarrassed when she nearly bled to death, had to go to the hospital and required surgery to repair her torn vaginal canal.
However, 20 years later, she and I frequently enjoy sex that includes fisting. I am very experienced in this sexual activity. It is what one would call EXTREME sex and can be quite dangerous, but very pleasurable for the receiver and the giver if done correctly. If not done correctly, the receiver can be injured, and even die were she to suffer trauma or embolism.
Therefore- this is an act that leaves one very vulnerable, and requires a lot of trust and communication.Fisting is the ultimate penetration, I would think. And it is an awesome experience to share with your lover.
If your lover is not reading this article with you (or does not seek education about the act if she has never done it) - then fisting is NOT for you. This is an act that must be agreed upon and be experienced as a couple. This is NOT an act to engage in with a casual acquaintance or approached in a casual way.
If your lover is not reading this article with you (or does not seek education about the act if she has never done it) - then fisting is NOT for you. This is an act that must be agreed upon and be experienced as a couple. This is NOT an act to engage in with a casual acquaintance or approached in a casual way.
- HOW do you do it?
For this act to be pleasurable, your LOVER must WANT to be penetrated in this way. It is mostly about her and not about the performer. HER desire to have your FIST inside of her comes from intense feelings of arousal and passion and love. You can not and must not try this if your partner does not WANT you to do it. Do not talk a reluctant partner into it.
The basic things that you must be aware of, are the safety measures. So you must have trust, communication, desire, and plenty of . . . LUBRICATION.
In order to attempt penetrating your partner with your fist she must be very sexually aroused. There is a lot of foreplay involved. And it is best when you (the giver) are aroused as well.
After engaging in enough foreplay for your partner to want penetration, and imagine your fist inside of her, you should ask first if she has not expressed the desire for you to do this.
Before attempting to engage in the sexual act of fisting- I recommend this checklist:
1. You, the PERFORMER (the partner who is about to perform this sexual act) have fingernails that are short and clean and have no sharp edges and you have clean hands
2. You, THE PERFORMER (the partner who is about to perform this sexual act) are capable of proceeding slowly, and capable of STOPPING if your partner says to STOP (this is not a time to be carried away by passion!)
3. You, THE PERFORMER (the partner who is about to perform this sexual act) have removed any and all jewelry that you wear on your hands. NO JEWELRY. No bracelets, no rings, or any other kind of jewelry. And, I discourage fisting when you are using sculpted nails, as well
4. Receiving partner – ABOUT TO HAVE THIS ACT PERFORMED ON YOU - must be capable of relaxing. You must trust your partner. Must feel comfortable with communication during sex, and must reconsider this sexual act if you have a “friable cervix”, or any other physical situation which would result in the presence of blood, including your menses cycle (period), unless you and your partner have agreed that it is alright if you are exposed to each other’s blood. This is not a good time for surprises
2. You, THE PERFORMER (the partner who is about to perform this sexual act) are capable of proceeding slowly, and capable of STOPPING if your partner says to STOP (this is not a time to be carried away by passion!)
3. You, THE PERFORMER (the partner who is about to perform this sexual act) have removed any and all jewelry that you wear on your hands. NO JEWELRY. No bracelets, no rings, or any other kind of jewelry. And, I discourage fisting when you are using sculpted nails, as well
4. Receiving partner – ABOUT TO HAVE THIS ACT PERFORMED ON YOU - must be capable of relaxing. You must trust your partner. Must feel comfortable with communication during sex, and must reconsider this sexual act if you have a “friable cervix”, or any other physical situation which would result in the presence of blood, including your menses cycle (period), unless you and your partner have agreed that it is alright if you are exposed to each other’s blood. This is not a good time for surprises
That said- here are my suggestions:
Once you and your partner feel that the time is right, foreplay should begin, and you should eventually alternate clitoral stimulation with digital vaginal penetration.
When the performer feels natural lubrication present from the receiver, she should start to penetrate the receiver’s vagina with her fingers, while still paying attention to the clitoris. Once the receiver is thoroughly lubricated and obviously willing, the performer should present more fingers into the receiver’s vagina, while still administering stimulation to the clitoris, and kissing the receiver, administering nipple stimulation, as well, if possible.
When the time comes that while administering digital penetration it is easy to slip four fingers inside of the receiver’s vagina, the couple can proceed towards penetration of the fist.
A good lubricant should be presented to the vagina at this point, even if the receiver is extremely wet from excitement, and stimulation should be continued. Always.
In order to present the fist into the vagina, the presenter should form a fist, and observe her fist (a mental observation is OK) to make certain that her fingertips have been carefully ‘curled under’, or padded against other fingers to protect the receiver from possible injury from sharp fingernails, and that the fist has a shape that will make it possible to penetrate the vagina easily, and allow for maximum stimulation.
The act of fisting affords the opportunity to massage the “G” Spot in a very intense way, as the presenter can twist her fist once inside of the receiver’s vagina and use her knuckles to massage the receiver’s “G” Spot more deeply and directly than by using a sex toy, or by digital penetration or by any other means that I am aware of.
Lubrication should be in place. The presenter’s fist should not be clenched as if the presenter were about to engage in a fight and use it as a weapon, but should have the fingers positioned as to configure what might resemble a cone shape (or a REALLY big penis head). This shape allows for easier penetration. The ‘fighter’s’ fist shape will absolutely not safely work for this sexual act and therefore should not be attempted.
The presenter should listen to, and obey the receiver. No means no. Slow means slow.
Once the presenter’s fist is inside of the receiver’s vagina, movement should be smooth and slow until the presenter’s fist feels accommodated within the receiver. The receiver will let you know how much, how fast and exactly how to proceed.
As the receiver becomes more accustomed to her lover’s entire hand being inside of her vagina, she will develop her own rhythm and hip movements and can be relied upon to communicate to the presenter what she believes feels best to her. The presenter should be aware that orgasms involve very powerful muscle contractions, and should your lover experience an orgasm while you are fisting- your hand could actually be subject to injury. Even as serious as a broken bone.
Done correctly- the act of fisting, in my estimation, can be the most exciting sexual act that you will ever engage in. It is the ultimate act of sharing, trust and respect. Communication. It is quite incredible. And THAT is what you can EXPECT from the experience.
Also expect to be a little sore the next day. That is normal.
Also- read what Susie Bright has to say about her exploration of fisting.
If you decide as a couple to do this- PLEASE – proceed with caution!
About Strap On Sex
BLUE SLEIGHTY'S STRAP ON COMMENTS:
A NUMBER ONE!- LATEX ALLERGIES! Latex Dildos are potentially very BAD for you! They absorb bacteria, they contain carcinogens (cancer causing chemicals), AND MANY PEOPLE ARE ALLERGIC TO LATEX! An allergic reaction to latex can KILL YOU! It can cause anaphylactic shock, which is potentially life threatening. At the very least, an allergic reaction to latex will cause burning and irritation, or a bladder infection. It can also damage your kidneys and liver. PLEASE BE CAREFUL! Buy silicone sex toys if you have experienced any strange reactions to latex, or if you know that you are allergic. Make sure your sex toy is 100% silicon, like VixSkin. Always use a condom. And, of course, if you are allergic to latex- use a non-latex condom, like the DUREX Avanti, or the Trojan Natural Lamb.
1. The harness that you choose is very important. I find, that for me, the "thong" style just doesn't work. Not enough control. I need a strap around each thigh, in order to keep the dildo snugly against me, and "centralized".
2. Leather is great looking. But, it wears out faster than nylon. Also, nylon is easier to wash. It dries faster, too. And, if you are in a big hurry, you can throw it in the clothes dryer.
3. The o-ring that the dildo fits through is important. It can be too small in circumference to accomodate the dildo that you intend to use. So, when you buy the harness, be sure that it has a big enough o-ring.
4. The length of the dildo is important. If it is too short (less than 7"), it will slip out of the vagina a lot, because it will be too short to control. And, that can be a big turn off, and be very frustrating.
5. What it looks like matters. It depends on the person. Some people are turned on by "foreign object" looking dildos. Some people are turned on by realistic looking dildos. I encourage discussion because that, too, can be a turn on.
6. I encourage you to make sure you know how to put it on, before you plan a night of fun with it. It's sexier that way.
7. Use a good water based lubricant.
8. Keep your sex toys clean, and use condoms with dildos. Dildos are absorbent, and therefore will absorb harmful bacteria.
Blue Sleighty is an expert at ALLEXPERTS.COM . Please do not hesitate to write if you have questions regarding sexuality, sexual orientation, writing / self publishing, or any other concern.
A NUMBER ONE!- LATEX ALLERGIES! Latex Dildos are potentially very BAD for you! They absorb bacteria, they contain carcinogens (cancer causing chemicals), AND MANY PEOPLE ARE ALLERGIC TO LATEX! An allergic reaction to latex can KILL YOU! It can cause anaphylactic shock, which is potentially life threatening. At the very least, an allergic reaction to latex will cause burning and irritation, or a bladder infection. It can also damage your kidneys and liver. PLEASE BE CAREFUL! Buy silicone sex toys if you have experienced any strange reactions to latex, or if you know that you are allergic. Make sure your sex toy is 100% silicon, like VixSkin. Always use a condom. And, of course, if you are allergic to latex- use a non-latex condom, like the DUREX Avanti, or the Trojan Natural Lamb.
1. The harness that you choose is very important. I find, that for me, the "thong" style just doesn't work. Not enough control. I need a strap around each thigh, in order to keep the dildo snugly against me, and "centralized".
2. Leather is great looking. But, it wears out faster than nylon. Also, nylon is easier to wash. It dries faster, too. And, if you are in a big hurry, you can throw it in the clothes dryer.
3. The o-ring that the dildo fits through is important. It can be too small in circumference to accomodate the dildo that you intend to use. So, when you buy the harness, be sure that it has a big enough o-ring.
4. The length of the dildo is important. If it is too short (less than 7"), it will slip out of the vagina a lot, because it will be too short to control. And, that can be a big turn off, and be very frustrating.
5. What it looks like matters. It depends on the person. Some people are turned on by "foreign object" looking dildos. Some people are turned on by realistic looking dildos. I encourage discussion because that, too, can be a turn on.
6. I encourage you to make sure you know how to put it on, before you plan a night of fun with it. It's sexier that way.
7. Use a good water based lubricant.
8. Keep your sex toys clean, and use condoms with dildos. Dildos are absorbent, and therefore will absorb harmful bacteria.
Blue Sleighty is an expert at ALLEXPERTS.COM . Please do not hesitate to write if you have questions regarding sexuality, sexual orientation, writing / self publishing, or any other concern.
The L Word
The L Word I’ve always preferred the word ‘gay’ over ‘lesbian’ although I don’t really care which of the many words people use. I am sure most of you know where the word ‘lesbian’ originates from. To those of you who don’t know, here are some tedious, pointless facts / opinions… that won’t change your life, on the big ‘L’ word and lesbian history according to Wikipedia…
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Campaign still growing with 100,000th signature - News
Campaign still growing with 100,000th signature - News May 12 marked the day that Caroline Kennedy became the 100,000th signer on a letter to President Barack Obama
The letter urges President Obama to allow committed gay and lesbian couples join in matrimony, according to a press release from the Freedom to Marry campaign.
The campaign is a nationwide effort trying to put a stop to "federal marriage discrimination".
The letter urges President Obama to allow committed gay and lesbian couples join in matrimony, according to a press release from the Freedom to Marry campaign.
The campaign is a nationwide effort trying to put a stop to "federal marriage discrimination".
Monday, May 23, 2011
Virtual Sex
RealTouch brings you the future-
For those of you not familiar with the interactive virtual sex toy, RealTouch, please visit their website:
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/gay2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for gay men.
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/straight2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for straight men.
This system interacts with video enabling the user to have virtual sex with favorite celebrities, porn stars and webcam models.
As use of RealTouch becomes more popular- which will likely happen quickly - there will be online sexual social networking communities of RealTouch users that will be able to interact with each other with virtual sexual encounters.
The women's model is on the drawing board- but no release date is promised.
My Secret Obsession
For those of you not familiar with the interactive virtual sex toy, RealTouch, please visit their website:
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/gay2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for gay men.
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/straight2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for straight men.
This system interacts with video enabling the user to have virtual sex with favorite celebrities, porn stars and webcam models.
As use of RealTouch becomes more popular- which will likely happen quickly - there will be online sexual social networking communities of RealTouch users that will be able to interact with each other with virtual sexual encounters.
The women's model is on the drawing board- but no release date is promised.
My Secret Obsession
Advances In Sex - Take a Look
Take a look at RealTouch.
For those of you not familiar with the interactive virtual sex toy, RealTouch, please visit their website:
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/gay2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for gay men.
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/straight2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for straight men.
At this point, the 'system' is only available for gay and straight men. RealTouch involves a "unit" that simulates the vagina, the mouth, or the anus. The sex toy part of the system is so advanced that it is warmed, has a warmed recycling lubrication reservoir, and internal make up that very accurately reproduces the feel of vaginal, oral and anal sex. Not only THAT, but you will be enjoying videos of your favorite porn stars that actually interact with the function of the sex toy, simulating an actual sexual encounter. It is already mind blowing- but WAIT! There's MORE!
Also in the plan are interactive SEXUAL social networks and / or communities. You will be able to have virtual sex with anyone that strikes your fancy!
There will be a model for women I was assured by my sales executive at AEBN. It is on the drawing board, but not yet available and there is not a projected roll out date just yet. The model for women will have a dildo involved.
I am very excited about this step in sexuality. I am waiting in anticipation for the roll out of the woman's model!
~Blue
For those of you not familiar with the interactive virtual sex toy, RealTouch, please visit their website:
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/gay2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for gay men.
http://landing.realtouchvideos.com/straight2.html?refid=aebn-016586 for straight men.
At this point, the 'system' is only available for gay and straight men. RealTouch involves a "unit" that simulates the vagina, the mouth, or the anus. The sex toy part of the system is so advanced that it is warmed, has a warmed recycling lubrication reservoir, and internal make up that very accurately reproduces the feel of vaginal, oral and anal sex. Not only THAT, but you will be enjoying videos of your favorite porn stars that actually interact with the function of the sex toy, simulating an actual sexual encounter. It is already mind blowing- but WAIT! There's MORE!
Also in the plan are interactive SEXUAL social networks and / or communities. You will be able to have virtual sex with anyone that strikes your fancy!
There will be a model for women I was assured by my sales executive at AEBN. It is on the drawing board, but not yet available and there is not a projected roll out date just yet. The model for women will have a dildo involved.
I am very excited about this step in sexuality. I am waiting in anticipation for the roll out of the woman's model!
~Blue
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